Feb. 5, 2014
Guest Post by Jennifer Grant of Chanhassen Fitness Revolution and Inspiring Radiance about Life, Love and Choosing Happiness
I wake early with anticipation of the day ahead. Before I move through the motions for a day of travel, I lie in the stillness and hold a space for gratitude and love. I gently grab my book and open to Lesson #31. I resonate with it quickly as this used to be the life I led.
Lesson #31 – “I am not the victim of the world I see.” As I read and re-read the statement a few times, the life of my past rushes forward. For many years I firmly believed and embraced “I’m not good enough, people don’t like me, so why even bother.” I allowed this limiting statement to completely run my life and in turn, I let myself wallow in being a victim of the world around me.
By seeing myself as a ‘victim’ it essentially gave me permission to not have to take responsibility for my own life and change. If all of this “stuff” outside of me was contributing to this not so great life I was leading, then it wasn’t my fault and I couldn’t fix it. What I didn’t realize at the time, is that being a victim was always my choice. Certainly there are terrible things that happen to amazing people – what I’m referring to, however, is when we allow those terrible things to continue running our lives.
It wasn’t until nearly 5 years ago when I realized that my life, as is your life, is always a choice. We might not get to always choose what happens to us, but we do always get to choose how we will respond. I’m grateful to look back on the past 4+ years knowing that I am no longer a victim of the world I see. Instead, I’m a co-creator living an incredible life.
So what changed, you might ask. The answer is simple yet not always easy. Love. Love changes everything. And the love I needed to focus on was for myself. I had never allowed myself to fully and completely fall in love…with me. It wasn’t until I decided to start exploring that option, realizing for the first time that if I want a ‘better’ life, it would be up to me. Having that recognition was the first piece of loving myself. For the first time I let go of being a victim and letting circumstances run my life and I began embracing what happened and then making choices from there.
As I continued choosing me and leading my life with love, new opportunities and amazing relationships started unfolding. Plus, as I loved more, I received more and then in turn had more love to give to others. When we get stuck in a cycle of victim-hood, it is a sure sign that we’ve turned away from love.
Because it’s not always easy, it’s a daily reminder I give myself – my life is my choice and I’m going to choose love. If you’re ready to watch your life unfold in ways you can’t imagine, start choosing love.
Make a Difference . . . Lead with Love
Jennifer Grant has a passion for serving and supporting others to recognize and embrace that they are amazing. Through her business, Inspiring Radiance, LLC., she spends her time as a writer, speaker, and coach sharing her message to “lead with love”. Her first book, Dying To Be Good Enough is due out 2014. www.inspiringradiance.com